Adopting a ToddlerAdopting a toddler is an option you may be considering, especially if you are thinking about adopting internationally. There is nothing cuter on earth than a toddler. I have one right now, and he's delightful, adorable, exasperating, funny and exhausting...and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world.
But as delightful as he is, life sometimes gets difficult for the both of us, because he can't always articulate his feelings, and he hasn't yet learned to cope with frustrations.
Now imagine how he would feel if he were suddenly whisked out of our home and into another country, where he didn't know the language, the food and smells were different than what he was accustomed to, and he didn't recognize a soul.
Heck, imagine how you would feel. And these are toddlers who have few coping skills, but do have a memory of a home they were comfortable in.
So if you plan on adopting a toddler, here are some ideas from Mary Hopkins-Best, author of Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft that you can use to help your adopted toddler make the transition from his old home to yours as comfortable as possible.
Familiar FoodResearch the types of food that are offered in his country of origin and try to offer something similar. Thanks to the internet, it's now easy to research and find ethnic recipes of just about any country out there.
If you are adopting a toddler and plan to travel to pick up your child, bring an extra suitcase and stock up on treats you wouldn't find at home. Obviously, you won't be able to bring back fresh fruit, meat or dairy items, but you can bring back packaged items, such as cookies or crackers. These familiar goodies will be comforting to your child.
Recognize Their Need to GrieveEighteen months is a lifetime to a toddler, and whether she grew up in an orphanage or a foster home, realize that she will miss the people she has known there.
She might not be able to tell you she is sad, but she will exhibit signs you can look for and recognize, such as not eating, crying a lot, sleeplessness, acting anxious or fearful or withdrawing from you.
During these times of grieving, provide extra comfort and patience. This is a difficult time, but it won't last forever.
Baby Her a BitWhen adopting a toddler, don't be worried if she acts much younger, and don't hesitate to treat her like a newborn. Hold her and give her a bottle. The cuddling and eye contact that go with it are some of the best ways to form an attachment.
Keep to a RoutineChildren are comforted by a routine, especially toddlers. So set up a routine and stick to it with zeal.
Create a Family RitualIn our family, we hold hands and pray together every evening before we eat. Have a game night or an evening once a week when you eat ethnic food.
Helpful LinksLooking for more tips on raising these precious little ones? Then check out Toddlers Are Fun. This helpful website includes fun activities, traveling tips, party ideas and potty training help.
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