Transracial Adoption Information
Transracial adoption information for people who plan to or are raising a child of a different race or culture.
When she was very small, my Guatemalan daughter preferred her white baby doll to the darker ones I also gave her.
It surprised me at the time, but according to Lois Ruskai Melina, author of the book, Raising Adopted Children
, it's also not unusual.
Children of a different race or culture raised by white parents tend to identify more closely with their parents and think of themselves as white.
This is one of the main reasons some people are opposed to transracial adoptions, but it can also cause problems for your child when she reaches adolescence.
While it's great your daughter or son identifies with you so strongly, you don't want your children to be ashamed of their race or consider themselves to be inferior because they're not white.
The Beauty of Race and Culture
My daughter's race and culture is an amazing part of who she is.
She comes from the Mayans, a people who had a fully developed written language long before many other people in their area, along with their own unique art, fantastic architecture, a mathematical system, and knowledge of astronomy.
As adoptive parents, it's our responsibility to make sure our transracially adopted children realize that their ethnicity and heritage are part of what make them the truly awesome people God intended them to be.
So how do we do that?
Transracial Adoption Information
Melina warns adoptive parents to not just give lip service to your child's culture, but actively involve yourself in it.
Don't just take your child occasionally to a Chinese restaurant.
Instead, learn Chinese cooking with your child and study the Chinese language together.
Actively Work to Value Their Culture
Also, don't pursue your child's culture out of a sense of duty, but instead show a true interest in your child's culture and heritage.
Learn to Appreciate Other Cultures
Filling your home with artifacts reflecting your child's culture such as this Mayan wall sculpture demonstrate your appreciation of your child's culture.
While it's important to read Korean folk tales to your Korean daughter, don't forget to read her stories from other cultures as well.
Teach your child to not only be proud of her own ethnic heritage, but also to recognize the value of other cultures and heritages as well.
Transracial Adoption Information
And finally, recognize that while your daughter will learn to appreciate both your culture, and that of her native country, she will also have her own culture unique to children who have been adopted internationally.
Realize the Culture of Adoptees
So encourage your child to seek friendships with children who have been adopted from other countries.
Find a local international adoption support group to find other couples in your area who have adopted from your child's country.
Your child will benefit from interacting with other kids who understand what it's like to walk in her shoes.
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How to Become a Positive Parent
Teach your children that good behavior will lead to positive benefits.
There are a number of ways to do this, including using a parenting program that allows children to earn tickets for demonstrating good behaviors and positive values.
Learn to modify your child's behavior by watching your language.
By stating commands in the positive rather than the negative, you can teach your children in subtle, yet powerful ways.
You can practice better discipline methods by teaching your children that it is their behavior, rather than your anger, that has both positive and negative outcomes, eliminating your anger and frustration in the process.
Peace at Home
There are excellent programs out there to help you with this goal.
The important thing is to take a positive step toward positive reinforcement parenting.
Your home will become more harmonious, and you'll all be happier and live in a more peaceful environment.
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But these children can be just as intelligent as any other child, and raising adopted children with learning disabilities can be delightful, although they will have their own unique challenges.
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Adopted child syndrome - ever heard of it?
Basically, it's a controversial label used to explain hurtful and destructive behaviors in adopted children such as violence, defiant behavior, lying, stealing and reactive attachment disorder.
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But please do think twice before putting him on a prescription medication.
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Feed him this healthy oil.
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Adoption books are a great way to explain adoption to young children and open the door for discussion about sensitive adoption issues such as birth parents, and why your child was placed for adoption.
Here are some great books your child will love.
Learning to cook ethnic recipes from your child's country of birth will be a comfort to your older child and a great learning experience for children adopted at a younger age.
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If your child is of another race, make sure you teach your child to be proud of his race and to appreciate his and other cultures.
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Follow these tips to make the transition easier.
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Here are some tips.
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As adoptive parents, we often place high expectations on ourselves as parents and it's easy to become discouraged.
That's when it's time to realize you're a normal parent with normal feelings.
A birth mother who searches for, and even comes back to take back a child she has given up for adoption.
Is this possible?
This issue was addressed recently in the hit show Glee, when teen mom Quinn, who had given up her baby for adoption in a previous season, announced she wanted to get her daughter back.
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